So if someone is requesting my friendship because they scanned their email address book, they must be “strangers”, and I do not take their requests.

I did not find that Facebook was the most useful social media for me. I saw it – maybe wrongly – as a good means to keep in touch with the very scattered friends and family, and have a single place to post current news, such as family events they can’t participate in because of geographical distance.

But it turns out that the too open to public scrutinity has been a strong deterrent, even with my filters on. So I tend to not use it at all, and let all the hype about it fade away.

Facebook head-palm moment. someone I didn’t know from HS added me on fb when i accepted, she told me she didn’t know me either. wtf?!

That’s what I get for being a little more flexible about accepting friend requests. I usually only accept people I have met at one time or another or know well from online.

@AdeleMcAlear great post about who to friend on Facebook [link to post]

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So I decided to set my Facebook boundaries. I only friend people I’ve “talked” to (whether it be in person or online.) and even then I tend to ignore people I know in a strictly business sense. I do have a limited profile group with a very small number of folks in it, but it’s not just about my privacy- I don’t want to see my newsfeed full of other people’s business posts! It’s a playground for me. Do I promote my stuff there? Sure, but only the stuff that my friends and family might be interested in.

@AdeleMcAlear Your post has hit a nerve with me today [link to post]

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I can’t locate the post, but I read something on Jeff Pulver’s blog last year, somewhat of a test. Select few people on Facebook, who you rarely engage, and message them. Set time limit and if they don’t answer, remove them. Interesting, only one of the five I selected answered. I looked at their profiles and they had been active, just too busy I assume to answer.

The difference between Twitter and Facebook, is people invest the time to engage. Honestly, I check Facebook each day and look over what everyone is doing, but I fail to directly connect with people first. Something I need to improve myself.

As for work and family. I keep them all separate. I’d never mix my work with family or my family with friends. *laughs* It’s just not possible. So, I think it all boils down into “know what you’ve got”.

*hugs* Really good article

Facebook for me is just not as clear-cut as LinkedIn or MySpace (which I use for my fiction pursuits) or Twitter (which I use for networking). Relationships on Facebook seem like they “should” be deeper than on Twitter – maybe that’s the problem?

RT @tawnypress: Choosing Your Facebook Friends. Great post @AdeleMcAlear [link to post]

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Choosing Your Facebook Friends. Great post @AdeleMcAlear [link to post]

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